You're Not the One — You're Just the In-Between

Let's not beat around the bush, it sucks to feel like you're putting your heart and soul into something or someone but its t

going nowhere.

You show up, you care, you stay when things get tough… you give it everything you've got but still, still you're not the one they want even if it felt like it.

Ever feel like that?

If you answered Yes… then there you have it that's the Red Shirt Method in full swing.

It's when someone uses you as the cushion, as a soft place to land while they figure themselves out. You're the emotional pit stop.

The healing station.

The distraction. But you're not the destination.

Here's how it usually goes:

They're still have issues with their ex, but you're the one they text at night. They tell you they're "not ready for anything serious," but act like they are . It's that weird friend zone but just enough to keep you around. You initiate. You check in. You make plans. It all feel so right. They pull away the moment they feel okay again.

And you? You're left wondering what the hell just happened?

But you didn't do anything wrong. You just got cast in the wrong role — someone else's red shirt.

So what now?

Know this: if someone's not choosing you fully, don't beg for pieces. You're not a pit stop. You're the whole damn journey. Stop explaining yourself to people who never really saw you.

It's not about getting bitter. It's about getting clear. You don't need to "convince" someone to keep you. If it was the right person then surely they won't need convincing.

You can't be put on the shelf like some kitchen utensil to be used as needed. You're not a backup plan. And you sure as hell aren't a red shirt.

If this has hit somewhere deep, or pinches a nerve, share it. Or better yet — send it to the one who made you feel like you were never enough. The one that made you feel like shit. Then block them and glow up.