Of course, if you meet men on dating apps… they will be erotic. They will ask you out… and they come on to you like a horn dog. So expect… kissing on the first date… knee touching, and total disregard for boundaries.
However, when you meet the gaze of a guy staring at you in the yogurt aisle… he will never come within five feet of you. Why? There are many reasons, but I narrowed it down to one… You're not online… you're offline.
In other words…
- He doesn't know you're single or interested.
- You didn't swipe right on him just like you did on Bumble… Tinder, or Hinge.
- He'd rather be in his comfort zone than slip out and be rejected with a lawsuit behind it.
- He's observant and wants to see what your next move would be.
- You are not alone. You have a friend, which makes it more challenging.
According to a few friends… "If you approach women and they dislike you or think you're attractive enough, you will be called a creep." — Liam.
A perfectly normal guy would be labeled a creep by a woman simply because he wasn't her type.
James, who is 34 years old and single, was asked why he didn't dare approach women. He replied, "I have never gotten a clear signal from a woman. My female friends have pointed out positive body language as signals but are too ambiguous for me to act on."
Keith, who is 30 years old and single, shares, "I don't approach women anymore because it's too tedious with little chance of payoff. Either they ignore you, reject you, shame you, or, worse, accuse you of rape. If a woman likes me, she should try to approach me."
George, 27 years old, shares, "Women demanding men to chase them while they never approach men themselves is what you could call 'entitlement.' If he doesn't approach you, approach him."
If only women:
- Were more direct and honest;
- Were less harsh when rejecting men
- Stopped playing hard to get or toying with men's emotions.
If only men:
- Took the hints before approaching women
- They were more sensible with their approach and words
- More mature and understanding and less misogynistic.
- Were clear with their emotions and actions.
…our dating scene would be less of a waste of time. Imagine a world of clear communication, no gaslighting, no more games, and more openness with one another.
I would say to hell with the rules. To hell with the fear. Go and get your woman… a high-value person is waiting for you…. don't walk to the yogurt aisle... run. You may see me in aisle 12. I love carbs…
Love,
Jen