They are looking for a sign from the universe, instructions if you will. It's like, "If they did this or that..."

You look at the other person and always wonder if what you have is true and special. But you are still confused. Let's talk about this.

I hope this helps with some clarification or at least helps get you closer to an answer. Here are 5 signs of true love in a relationship, according to psychology.

1) You stay respectful even during arguments

I think it is a mistake to believe that true love requires only love. True love is a combination of everything that makes you grow as a person.

Yes, there is love, but there is also trust. There is kindness. Loyalty. thoughtfulness. Considerate. There are compromises.

And there's also respect. Respect that is always present, especially in moments of tension. Respect is necessary for a relationship to develop.

When that is present in a relationship, it is healthy. It would not be wrong to say that true love is necessary for it to exist. Love that exists without it is an attempt at control.

2) You resolve conflict healthily

Which brings us to the first point. It's healthy conflict resolution. When you're angry, you're more likely to say things you don't mean, so resolving conflicts in a healthy way is a sign to watch out for. It shows respect and shows the other person that you can remain friendly (or at least polite) even in moments of anger or disagreement.

And it prevents anger from building up. It also demonstrates effective communication.

All the components of a healthy relationship. And what about true love? Well, it's supposed to be good for your health too.

3) You see a future with them

On a slightly cheesy note, think of Adam Sandler's song "Grow Old With You." "I want to make you smile whenever I'm sad carry yourself If arthritis is bad what i want to do is I want to grow old with you...

This is sickeningly sweet, but it shows the hard truth of intent. The intention is to grow old with someone. Supporting them through ups and downs, sickness and health.

And I'm not talking about marriage, I'm not saying forever, but I'm talking about long term.

True love is so greedy that it wants to be with you more. You want to build a life together, whatever that means to you. True love looks to the future.

4) You are vulnerable with each other

"No matter what type of relationship we're talking about: friendship, family, romantic love, vulnerability is the key to fostering closer, deeper, more authentic connections with others. It keeps us honest with each other and with ourselves.'' It breaks down barriers, eliminates the possibility of misunderstandings and misunderstandings, and allows us to be fully ourselves. "

If you can't be vulnerable with your partner, reflect on why that is. Are you shy? Is the relationship too new that you can't do it?

5) You understand each other's shortcomings and work through it together

Building on the earlier point of vulnerability, let's talk about understanding each other's shortcomings. Is it because of love? It's a choice. Every day you must make a conscious decision to love the other person. And even knowing each other's mistakes, it is not always easy to make a decision. At some point, you may get on each other's nerves (see #1 and #2). And true love doesn't stumble, at least I don't think it does. True love is a conscious and continuous effort. True love takes time and true love requires will.

Final thoughts

Love in its various forms can exist in as many shades of truth as there are shades of a particular color.

What I'm saying is that there is no one-size-fits-all solution. But the point here is that what you endure determines what you gain.

Love also follows this logic. Not all of the signs listed here will show up in your relationship, but this is not a checklist. That's it for the guide.

However, what you need to remember is that many of these are minimal. At least don't blame yourself.

True, there can be more or less true love, but not too much.

At the very least, you deserve respect, trust, and kind love. You deserve love that is good for you and good for you. The kind of love that doesn't confuse you.

You deserve the kind of love that is sure and guaranteed. May this love find you and may this love last.