There is a subtle but important difference when we use take on a label as an identity vs when it is a mere descriptor. The same label may be an identity for one person, but merely a descriptor for another. For some people, their race, culture, profession, political affiliation, or even fandom represents a part of their identity, part of who they are. For others it is merely a descriptor, a statement of fact, but nothing more.

When we are talking with people about a topic related to something they consider part of their identity, they are likely to have strong feelings and opinions on the topic. This doesn't mean they are irrational about the topic or can't be reasoned with. Nor is having an identity label a bad thing. It gives a certain perspective and can be an important tool both externally for unifying others similar to us, as well as a tool for gaining insight into who we are as a person.

For myself, being polyamorous is an identity for me. It is an important part of myself that I've only truly started to explore in recent years, but looking back at my life it has been a part of myself that wasn't really explored or expressed. Another part of my identity being a shy extrovert. I love going out with friends, and it's usually energizing rather than draining, but it's also something that I have trouble with initiating, or even deciding to do. In both of theses cases, exploring that part of myself helped me to understand myself better.

Something I don't consider an identity label for me is veganism. Even though I try to adhere to a vegan/plant-based diet most of the time, it isn't a core part of who I am. It's something I do, not something I am. In a similar vein, I believe in feminism and agree with an occasionally promote most feminist ideals, I do not consider it an identity, and would not call myself a feminist, just like I would not call myself a democrat despite my voting record and being registered as such.

An identity is more than just a belief, and isn't something taken on lightly. Our identities can shift over time, but they aren't superficial. Changes often involve deep soul searching. They can help us an others understand who we are as people.

What do you consider to be part of your identity?